Martin Luther King Jr. had a dream. Me too. It’s that girls and women of all ages and stages believe in themselves and boost one another up at every opportunity.
I was telling a story last week to a friend as we walked the track, and she told me not once but twice in a derogatory fashion that I had a strong personality. I quickly told her that my personality strong or otherwise had nothing to do with the story outcome and changed topics.But why did this seemingly well-adjusted , happy and accomplished 61-year old woman persist in labeling me? What was she trying to accomplish? And why was this behavior coming from a friend?
In the male form, I’d be called a confident, determined straight-shooter. Some may even say that I have chutzpah. And those would all be positive re-enforcers. But as a professional woman, I’ve faced considerable discrimination over the years—and sadly much of it has been from other women. I don’t believe I’m alone in this.
I recommend we look to permanently shift this paradigm.
5 Healthy Tips For Females to Move Other Females Forward
- Compliment: When you see a trait in another woman that you like, tell her so.
- Seek balance: Jealousy is a waste of time and energy. Look inside yourself to determine any gaps in your life, and then take appropriate steps to find your own fulfillment and satisfaction.
- Admire: Look for healthy female role models.
- Find a mentor or champion: Everyone can benefit by a mentor for personal and professional one-on-one development. Champions are people who tell others how incredible you are. They go to bat for you and put your name forward for introductions, promotions and referrals. Bring these kinds of wonderful women into your life.
- Become a mentor or champion: Help move another girl or woman forward; you’ll feel stellar when you do.
To quote the indomitable Dr. Maya Angelou, “How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our heroes and she-roes! Ladies, let’s applaud one another—and frequently.