What is “Rape Culture” Anyway?

2017-12-19T16:53:19+00:00August 31, 2016|Gender-based violence, Guest bloggers, Sexual abuse|

Scales of justiceI wrote a blog post recently about a man getting in my space and creeping me out in an elevator, and posted the link to my Facebook page. I couldn’t believe the chorus of voices that rose up in the comments to defend him, and defend men in general, as though I had somehow accused them all. There were even comments about how my fearful attitude is partly responsible for “attracting these types of situations”.

It blew my mind how quickly people jumped to the man’s defense, and also questioned my read of the situation, as though they, people who were not present, somehow understood what happened better than I did.

How to Write an Opinion Piece

2016-08-11T12:40:31+00:00August 11, 2016|Guest bloggers, How to, SHE Magazine, Women in media|

Woman writing in notebookEvery day, they help to shape our world. We nod our heads in agreement, or rage at their stupidity. They move the needle on public opinion, provide a handy pool of experts for radio hosts, inspire armchair pundits—even influence politicians.

Written opinion pieces are a powerful tool. At their best, they bring invisible issues to light, add diverse voices, and allow “regular people” (maybe you!) to have their say.

Most newspapers and many websites welcome submissions that are timely, well-written, and well-reasoned, from people who know what they’re talking about. Women must be an equal part of these discussions.

Why We Ask – Teaching Consent

2017-12-19T16:55:44+00:00July 26, 2016|Empowering girls, Gender-based violence, Guest bloggers, How to, Sexual abuse|

Couple sitting in parkThis post was originally published on the Klinic’s blog.

This evening I am again sitting in on a SERC youth session at Peaceful Village, this time at a south end Winnipeg high school. As I mentioned in a previous post, Peaceful Village offers programming that supports integration and literacy for newcomer families and youth, and our partnership with them is funded by the Canadian Women’s Foundation. To learn more please read my first blog on this partnership, Healthy Relationships Start Young.

This is week 9 of the 12 week session and Bre, one of our Sexuality & Reproductive Health Facilitators, invited me to attend because she is so impressed by the thoughtfulness and exuberance of this unique group. In fact, she tells me, last week one of the students started a discussion on the idealization of masculinity and how it affects male youth–this is clearly a young man after my own heart.  Today we are talking about consent.

Attention Mothers: You Matter

2016-07-19T09:00:23+00:00July 19, 2016|Guest bloggers, How to|

Mother with childIt feels like a radical approach to parenting to say this, but mother’s lives are just as important as children’s lives. Parenting takes a focus on the child, and once you become a parent, parenting becomes a full time occupation. So where do a mother’s needs fit into all of this? Maslow’s hierarchy of needs applies equally to mothers as it does to anyone else. I encourage you to take a moment and say it out loud: “I am as important as my children, my needs matter.” Let it be your mantra.

I can safely assume that most people will agree with the mantra. Of course you matter. But when is the last time that you took a critical look at your day, your week or your month and said yes there is sufficient “me” time in my schedule?

Our children’s health and wellbeing becomes our focus, and rightfully so, but this should not be at the expense of our own health and wellbeing. From the moment I became a mother my life became a shadow my children’s. Their needs became more important than mine, more immediate, more demanding. It was a gradual progression. And it’s something many mothers struggle with.